7 Parenting Skills

Looking around today, we can safely say that the majority of parents practice an ―Authoritarian or Punitive style of parenting.

What we‘ve also discovered is that those parents who don‘t apply Authoritarian parenting will often tend to be overly permissive in their parenting. Then, when their child is out of control due to this permissiveness, the parent feels exacerbated and often will lash out with harshness in order to reel their unruly child in. Like a pendulum swing, the parent goes from Permissive parenting to Authoritarian parenting.

Once a mainstay, Authoritarian and Permissive approaches have become outdated, unworkable and no longer practical or healthy, according to the latest research and results.

7 parenting skills to help your child stay connected, allow their natural intelligence to flourish, and support a warm, enjoyable family environment:

1. Understanding the 3 Reasons for Challenging  Behaviour – ask yourself why is your child acting this way?   

2. Non-Reaction – Stop reacting and start responding. Connect to your child‘s state of being and respond to his deeper needs instead of reacting to his behaviour.

3. Natural Giggles – Laughter and giggles are great medicine and create a bond with your child. Find opportunities in your day that allow your child to giggle and laugh.

4. Listening Time – Schedule regular time with your child during which you fully listen to him and let him direct the play for a pre-specified period of time.

5. Connective Communication – Talk to your child using kind and gentle words in a considerate, loving and respectful tone of voice.

6. Limit Setting – Set kind but firm limits to help your child feel supported enough to express his true feelings.  Just saying ‘No’ is not always a good idea.

7. Adult-to-Adult Listening Time – Schedule regular time with a friend or support to have your own feelings listened to.  Take time for your own emotional needs.

Keep in mind, all of these skills take time to truly learn and fully integrate into your parenting. The more you use them, the more you‘ll learn from them and integrate them in a skilled fashion.

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